A Tribute to Moms
It’s hard to believe that it is almost Mother’s Day, it always seems to sneak up on me. My Road My Story is all about family, and what better way to start off this month than with a tribute to Mothers; after all Mothers are where it all begins.
It has been commented on that being a parent; one of the most important, complex jobs in the world, requires no education, no prior skills or experience not even a background check and yet anybody can do it!
The truth is a Mother’s work really is never done. Once we conceived or agreed to take a child into our lives, we signed a lifetime contract to death, and some of us have vowed to be there even beyond.
The responsibilities are great, the work hours are never-ending, and yet it is the only thing I have ever done that has provided me with the most fulfillment in my life. I love being a Mom.
The job description is simple: Other duties as assigned, work in all elements, need to be able to lift unknown amounts of weight, work with biohazardous materials, no holidays (in fact expect to work harder on these days), no weekends, no sick or leave days and no retirement. Pay 0$ an hour, but this isn’t a job is it, it’s a calling.
The responsibilities that come with Motherhood are bigger than any other job and no amount of money could ever compensate. No job will ever provide you with the same joy, or fulfillment as being a Mother can and will.
The role of a Mother is one of the most impactful jobs in the world, one in which a life is created and the possibilities for this child are endless.
This life will impact the lives of 1,000’s of others it is a butterfly effect that continues to touch the lives of others even after death.
If the world really took the time to assess the impact Mothers have in society, they would soon realize that Mothers are so much more, but then again maybe it is for the best because our best work is done behind the curtain.
There are so many Mothers out there, Moms of the past, present and future. Their words of wisdom come to us in times of need.
Because we have become accustomed to labeling, and we get stuck thinking within a box, we often overlook Mothers who don’t fit the conventional label.
Single Dads whom by whatever circumstance are the sole parent. Often raised on how to be a good provider, but never thought that you would have to play a dual role of both Mom and Dad. So often Dads are portrayed as the absent parent, the disciplinarian or just a weekend Dad. Kudos to those Dads who have taken on the challenge of being both parents to your child.
Step-Moms, again the labels am I right? Seriously, the first thing that came to my mind was the evil step-mom, but man what a difficult role. Whether biological Mom is in the picture or not, where do you stand? You play the part, you love the child like your own but the dynamics can be so tricky. It’s got to be hard for the kids too, and yet so many of you have made it work and work well.
Foster Moms you voluntarily take in someone else’s child(ren) at all hours of the day. Often these children come from homes of abuse and/or neglect. These children are angry, confused and hurt. You know little to nothing about them, but often you soon find out that they come with all sorts of baggage.
These are some of our most vulnerable and troubled youth, and yet you take on the challenge and do your best to provide stability, consistency, and love. It’s a tough position, because you become attached and yet the best case scenario is that the children get to go back home, and you may never get to see them again, but I know they remain in your heart. Without foster Moms where would these children go?
Grandmas, Aunts, and other family raising your grandchild(ren), nieces, nephews cousins… In my line of work in Child Protection Services, it lifts my heart when I can place a child(ren) with family. Gone are the days when that was a given. If a child cannot be with their parents, the next best place is with family. It’s a difficult role to play having to deal with relatives, but you do it anyway because you love those kids.
Adoptive Moms: If you ask most women who want a family they will say they want a child of their own, when that isn’t possible I cannot imagine having to let go of that dream, and yet so many do taking in children who have nowhere else to go, have no parents or family and like you they are waiting for someone to call their own.
Empty Nesters: I fall into this category after an 18, 19-year career of raising our children to be responsible, respectable and productive adults, our reward is an empty bedroom. Just because they are gone doesn’t mean that we don’t worry, that our ears and eyes don’t yearn to hear their voices and to see them again. Their lives become busier, and often ours become less so, they have families and responsibilities of their own, and we are left alone. It’s hard to let go, but let go we do. The transition from child to adult can be difficult for Moms to handle. When you have played the same role for almost two decades, you have lived and breathed being Mom the pain of letting go and watching them walk out the door is indescribable. Our responsibilities may have lessened, but our role never goes away. Once a Mom always a Mom.
To all the Moms and those wearing the Mom hat have a blessed and joyous day and remember that you change the world every single day.
Happy Mother’s Day